Letting Go – We Would if We Could!

How often do you read that letting go is the answer? Or someone tells you “Just let go of that, you’ll feel so much better!” Or happier, or lighter, or more relaxed … more of whatever you’re not feeling now.

We KNOW letting go is the way to move forward. And we would if we could. But sometimes we get stuck holding on.

Maybe it’s something material or maybe it’s an emotion, a reaction you want to move through your body and up on out. What can you do right now?

How about instead of trying to let it go you just let it be? Let it live in you with awareness. And to heighten your awareness try giving it form … draw it, dance it, sing it, write it.

And then turn your attention elsewhere. Instead of struggling to let go so you can feel lighter and happier, do something that helps you get to that joyful, playful, light-hearted place NOW.

Do the things that make you feel lighter NOW and enjoy those feelings now. You might even find that whatever you want to let go of starts to get lighter and lighter until it lifts off by itself!

How to do this?

My personal favorite for fun, insight and getting out of your worry-mind is to make art with no rules the way you did when you were a kid. If you want help getting started sign up for my free Virtual Mini Retreat (on the right side of this page). It has a great activity that will get you playing with crayons : )

What else can you do?

Get your body moving. Play baseball or volleyball, go for a swim, dance! or go for a walk. Walking is amazing in its ability to move us forward. Tangled thoughts get sorted out and wild emotions settle down so we can think straight again.

Play with a child, giggle and be silly. It’s a great way to get into your heart and into the moment and stop fretting.

Spend time with a pet and really get into your non-verbal communication. It’s another great way to get out of your head and into the moment.

I’m sure you can think of more. Whatever makes you feel good and helps you forget your SERIOUS self for awhile is what you’re looking for.

It’s about having fun BEFORE things work out, before we let go, before we have everything arranged just right, and doing it NOW because now is the only moment we have, after all.

Take Your Troubles for a Walk

Walking for transformation

What do you do when you feel stuck with a decision and don’t know how to move through it? Or you feel intense, reactionary emotion and don’t know how to relax so you can find your center, find your clarity again?

One of the things I do is walk. Not just my usual, throw myself out the door, get some exercise walk, but a walk with the specific intent of learning and transforming. You might call it a walking meditation, or walking reflection. It’s one of my favorite therapies.

Walking moves the body and deepens the breath. We become relaxed and open to new thoughts and ways of being;  it can help us shift out of habitual ways of thinking and our mind becomes free to find new solutions. If you’ve been turning a problem over and over in your mind with no solution, take your troubles for a walk.

How far you walk and the pace you set is up to your inclination and fitness capabilities. If illness or injury prevents you from walking, then you can imagine your walk, doing the exercise in your mind. This fires the muscles you would use if you were actually walking, and encourages your whole system to maintain it’s belief in the ability to move.

Set your intention

Before you begin your walk, know what you’re asking for.  You might, for example, be facing a career choice, be in the middle of a family disagreement, or facing a decision about health care. Be clear about the issue and ready to let it go as a “problem” and receive a solution.  Be committed to acting on the answer you receive.

Head out the door

As you head out on your walk, hold an image of the question in your mind, but acknowledge that you don’t know the answer and let go of active problem-solving. The idea is to get your busy mind out of the way so your creative mind can discover new ways of looking at things. Notice how good it feels to let the problem go. Notice your thoughts as they come and go. Allow them to shift and change without holding onto them, without directing them in any way. Enjoy your body movement. Enjoy the release of handing over your question to your intuitive, creative mind.

The answer

At some point you may notice a thought that speaks differently to you than the others. It may be a sudden, strong new thought. Or a seemingly insignificant thought that keeps coming back until you begin to notice it in a new way. If it seems to be asking for your attention, then pay attention. Keep walking, and ask yourself if this might be your answer, or the beginning of an answer to your question.

Sometimes a beginning is what we’re given, sometimes more. Sometimes my answer is a new attitude with which to address the puzzle. Walk until you feel you understand what you’ve received and are sure you’ll remember it.

Take some quiet time after your walk. New awareness can be fragile, slipping out of the mind if we get busy too fast, so try not to rush into another activity right away. Nurture your new awareness, and think about how you might act on what you’ve learned.