Should I stay or should I go?

In the swirl of thoughts and emotions it can feel like you need to answer this before healing can start and life move on.

But wait a minute!

Your life has just been turned upside down.

You’re  in shock and you can’t think straight.

Maybe you have an urge to leave. To get away from the pain. Or show him how much he’s wronged you, and that you Will Not Take It!

Maybe you want more than anything to stay. Hoping he’ll be genuinely remorseful and do everything he can to make it up to you.

You may even want one thing in the morning, and another later in the day.

You might wonder what’s “right”. Or not know for certain what you want, or even what’s possible.

In the midst of this emotional chaos, how can you make a decision that will affect your whole life?

For most people it’s too soon.

The thing is, you don’t have to answer the “stay or go” question before you start healing.

Try this question instead:

How do I get my feet back on the ground so I can trust my emotions, and trust my decisions again?

Before you make any important decisions you need to know you can trust your emotions and your thinking.

Why?

Because it’s the only way to know what you really want and what you believe is possible.

Because the decision to stay or leave is HUGE, and big decisions have long lasting consequences.

If you stay, it’s not as simple as “going back to normal”. That’s not possible anyway. For real change, you need an empowered reconciliation that creates a new, more honest relationship.

If you leave, you want your decision to be made from a strong and balanced center. That way your new life begins on a positive note with no second guessing.

 

5 things you can do to start healing right now

One

Make sure you have someone to talk to. Tell your story, because holding it in is painful, and sharing it with someone who cares is supportive and eases the pain.

Two

Accept your feelings. All of them. Your emotions can be a wild ride, especially in the beginning, and it’s important to know they are ALL normal. You are normal.

Three

Arrange private time away from kids and work, where you can write in a journal and yell or cry or anything else you need to do by yourself..

Four

Find a good therapist/coach/counselor. Someone you like and who specializes in affair recovery. You’ll get guidance and support for the steps you want to take.

Five

Do something everyday that’s just for you. It can be as big as a day at the spa or as small as a 10 minute bath before bed.

 

Should I stay or should I go?

In the swirl of thoughts and emotions it can feel like you need to answer this before healing can start and life move on.

But wait a minute!

Your life has just been turned upside down.

You’re  in shock and you can’t think straight.

Maybe you have an urge to leave. To get away from the pain. Or show him how much he’s wronged you, and that you Will Not Take It!

Maybe you want more than anything to stay. Hoping he’ll be genuinely remorseful and do everything he can to make it up to you.

You may even want one thing in the morning, and another later in the day.

You might wonder what’s “right”. Or not know for certain what you want, or even what’s possible.

In the midst of this emotional chaos, how can you make a decision that will affect your whole life?

For most people it’s too soon.

The thing is, you don’t have to answer the “stay or go” question before you start healing.

Try this question instead:

How do I get my feet back on the ground so I can trust my emotions, and trust my decisions again?

Before you make any important decisions you need to know you can trust your emotions and your thinking.

Why?

Because it’s the only way to know what you really want and what you believe is possible.

Because the decision to stay or leave is HUGE, and big decisions have long lasting consequences.

If you stay, it’s not as simple as “going back to normal”. That’s not possible anyway. For real change, you need an empowered reconciliation that creates a new, more honest relationship.

If you leave, you want your decision to be made from a strong and balanced center. That way your new life begins on a positive note with no second guessing.

 

5 things you can do

to start healing right now

One

Make sure you have someone to talk to. Tell your story, because holding it in is painful, and sharing it with someone who cares is supportive and eases the pain.

Two

Accept your feelings. All of them. Your emotions can be a wild ride, especially in the beginning, and it’s important to know they are ALL normal. You are normal.

Three

Arrange private time away from kids and work where you can write in a journal and yell or cry or anything else you need to do by yourself..

Four

Find a good therapist/coach/counselor. Someone you like and who specializes in affair recovery. You’ll get guidance and support for the steps you want to take.

Five

Do something everyday that’s just for you. It can be as big as a day at the spa or as small as a 10 minute bath before bed.

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