You’ve heard it a million times.
Be yourself!
Don’t get caught up trying to be something you think others want you to be.
Live each moment as you are
Tell your own truth
Live your own life
Don’t worry what others think
Love is all Around!
Mayana
P.S. You won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but others will be steadfast in their love and appreciation of the real you. xo
The beautiful simplicity of releasing limiting beliefs (Tweet!)
Releasing thoughts and beliefs that no longer serve us is as simple as opening our hand and letting the bird fly free. What’s hard, what causes struggle, is holding on. Like a hand clenched tight around the bird trying to get free.
Let it fly!
Love Loves Love,
This is the most loving thing you can do for yourself. (Tweet!)
It can look tantalizing, it can look formidable, it can stand in the way of your happiness, and it’s the most loving thing you can do for yourself. It releases you from the past so you can live in the joy and meaning of the present.
Make peace with the fact that you absolutely can’t change the past! Learn from the past, heal the past and then step into the present. Every day becomes a joyous living of now.
Love Loves Love,
How to love yourself Right Now! (Tweet!)
Inside us all is some form of conflict as we develop our positive qualities and tame our negative thoughts and tendencies. Some people say it feels like a battle, while others find it more gentle than that. Most agree it takes constant vigilance.
You can make your life more peaceful by loving yourself right now just as you are. Accept that there are things you want to change and love yourself anyway. Don’t wait until you’re perfectly positive or perfectly healthy or perfectly ANYthing before you start loving all of who you are.
It’s powerful medicine.
Love Loves Love,
With thanks to Ramadevi May who posted this on Facebook.
Do you resist doing things, putting them off until another day, another week, another month instead of just getting them done? What does that resistance cost you?
What would it take to just DO the thing? Courage? Willingness? A new thought pattern? A kick in the butt?
Take a deep breath and just do it!
Love Loves Love,
Try this when you get triggered (Tweet!)
Next time you get triggered over something a person says or does (and especially if it has that old, familiar feeling) try this:
Take several deep breaths and release each one like a sigh.
Ask yourself: Why am I using this to pull myself away from peace?
Ask: What might I do instead?”
Wait quietly until something comes to you.
If nothing comes right away then gently carry the question with you through your day, staying open for an answer.
Love Loves Love,
P.S. It’s a practice. The more you do it the more it works.
When your thoughts are unkind. What to do with them? (Tweet!)
When you have kind thoughts, everyone around you can feel it. When your thoughts are unkind people feel that too. So what to do when you’re not at your best?
Start with awareness. Simply being aware of your negative thoughts can be enough to reduce or even eliminate their effect on others as well as on you. This is very helpful!
Now you can take steps to calm your mind and choose new thoughts one step at a time.
Love Loves Love,
Do you ever find yourself trying to be someone you’re not? Most of us have, and it usually means we’re trying to please someone who wants us to be different than we are. It’s very stressful!
Be yourself. Anything less leaves the world bereft of your talents and special ways of looking at life. (Tweet this!)
Love Loves Love,
Dear Negativity, thanks for the help, but things have changed. (Tweet this!)
I used to wonder if affirmations could actually work. For a long time. I saw them only as band-aids on my simmering, negative thoughts. I decided that affirmations were too superficial for someone with my level of negativity.
Oh, how important I considered myself and my negativity!
Then one day it occurred to me that new, positive thoughts were only a band-aid if I IGNORED the negative thoughts and attempted to COVER THEM UP with affirmations.
Just like that, I wasn’t afraid of those thoughts anymore.
I began looking negativity in the eye and saying, “Thanks. I’m sure you once had a purpose in my life, but things have changed and I won’t be needing you any more.”
Now I started to feel a subtle shift when I replaced one thought with another. It was becoming a practice. I didn’t worry that the same negativity might appear again. I knew it would! But I also knew my practice was weakening those thought patterns and step by step they would be eliminated.
This is how positive affirmations work. It’s joyful and it’s work. And it works!
Love Loves Love!
The greatest healer is Love. (Tweet this!)
The greatest healer is Love. I don’t mean someone to love you, although that’s wonderful too. I’m talking about loving. Approaching life and everyone in it with a loving heart.
This may seem like a lofty ideal, and it is! But not unattainable. It’s not only Mother Teresa and others like her who can live life from Love. It’s just that for some of us (for whatever good reason) it takes a little more attention.
So we start where we are. We move obstacles out of the way (like resentment and other difficult feelings). We invite compassion and forgiveness and joy into the newly opened space. Step by step it feels easier and more natural, until more and more we find ourselves living with ease in Love.
Love Loves Love,
Your emotions can open the door to a vibrant, joyful life. (Tweet this!)
Dear One,
All your feelings are natural, even difficult ones like grief and anger. No need to call them negative or positive, just honestly name the way you feel and then express it, because holding it in is exhausting and can make you sick.
Express in a way that’s safe and doesn’t hurt you or anyone else. Sing, move, cry, make sounds, write, draw, paint. It frees you from the pain of “holding in” and opens the door to a vibrant, joyful life.
Love Loves Love,
How can you be kind to yourself today? (Tweet this!)
What self-empathy will help you be your best self today? Close your eyes and wait for the answer. Is it kindness, understanding, acceptance, forgiveness, compassion?
When you have your answer, move into your heart, grow that feeling, and flood it through your whole being until your body sings.
Now enjoy your day 🙂
Be Love,
It’s important to manage stress. That’s not news.
But a happy, fulfilled life is more than successful management of stress. And since it’s virtually impossible to have a life with no stress, that’s not the answer either.
Normally we think we have to de-stress and then we’ll be relaxed and happy. I’d like to turn that idea upside down and say: First get happy and then you won’t be stressed.
What you need—what we all need—is experiences that give us a super soul-satisfying, really great time! This is what builds up ever-greater tolerance of life’s regular stressors so you experience stress without feeling stressed.
In other words, do things that leave you feeling fulfilled. Do things that echo your inner needs—life-affirming activities that give a deeper meaning to your every day, literally making life worth living.
Just do it. Like Joseph Campbell said: “Follow your bliss.”
Do you know what brings you fulfillment? If you’re only sort-of sure, here are three ways that can help you get clearer. Give yourself some quiet time away from the hectic demands of daily life, and try one of these:
Love loves love,
Today I was thinking about those moments in our past that have a hold over us in the present. You know what I mean, right?
You can pretty much tell this is going on when something in your life isn’t working, and no matter how much you practice positive thinking, set goals or “work on it”, you just can’t turn it around.
It’s frustrating when you’re doing everything you can, and things don’t change.
And it’s magical when you can time-travel in your mind … go back into the past and find the moment that’s holding you back. You can look that moment in the eye, bring it out of darkness and it loses it’s power over you.
It’s a powerful method, and one of my favorites for helping people move forward. So I thought I’d tell you a story about the way something like that happened to me.
I tell my clients to dance with their dreams, and part of that dance, part of making dreams come true is setting goals. For more than 25 years I’ve helped people set goals and work toward them and I know it works.
Yet for a long time I was less structured with my own goals than I taught others to be. I liked mine less firm, more fluid, more imaginary. And I hated deadlines.
I was always okay with that. I accepted it. “It’s just the way I am.”
Then one day I was with a group of counselors having an animated talk about goals, and I started feeling RESISTANCE and CONFUSION. It took me by surprise because I thought I was so clear about this!
But there I was, having a light-bulb moment as I realized the resistance and confusion were telling me to go looking for something deeper than, “It’s just the way I am.”
I love mind-body magic, so I actually got excited as I realized there must be a disconnect between what I know about goals and something I once learned to believe about them.
I dove into memory to look for the “moment” and found it right away. I was a teenager and my parents created a goal for me when they said: “You have to get better marks (grades) on your next school report card or you won’t be allowed to go to band practice any more.”
My parents, bless them, were trying to motivate me to improve my schoolwork.
But band was my link with sanity, the one place in the world where things made sense, where I knew what was expected, where I knew what to do. Band was music. Band was where I belonged!
I was scared.
And I was motivated.
I went to my room and pulled out my books to study, only to realize I had no clue what to do next! Every page turned into a blur in front of my eyes and when I thought about the whole chapter, and more chapters after that, I was so overwhelmed I couldn’t learn a thing.
The truth is I didn’t know how to study because until now school had always been easy for me. Now I was confused and upset and I felt like a failure.
That moment is when the belief got created and it went like this: “I see the goal and I can’t get there.” And with it came a feeling of defeat.
No wonder I didn’t like concrete goals! I felt defeated before I even got started. But now I had looked the moment in the eye and the spell it held over me was broken.
I started setting clear goals and taking the same step by step actions I taught other people. Was it a challenge to change the style of a lifetime? You bet! But I wanted to move forward faster than dreams and imagination alone could take me.
Here are a few things that helped me get started in my new-for-me goal-setting style.
Kale is my favorite superfood. It’s nutrient dense, easily available and you can prepare it in sooo many ways. My favorite is putting it in green juice. It’s great in smoothies, it’s fun to make kale chips and there are endless, beautiful kale salads.
Did you know it will grow all year round even in the snowy middle of winter? It survives under the snow and you just reach through to pick it. This hardy little vegetable also has a hearty ability to be warming and filling during the cold season.
So why am I writing about it at the beginning of spring? That’s a good question.
I got busy and distracted this winter. Stopped making my daily green juice and, because it was a super-cold winter, I ended up eating more for warmth and less for green nutrition. I ended up not feeling very peppy.
So now I’m loving kale as a transition food from winter to spring, from “falling off the wagon” to nurturing my cells in a green way again. I went back to making green juice every day and I love the way I felt almost instantly! And I’m craving kale salads.
Craving nutrient rich foods is a great sign, and usually after you eat them out of discipline for awhile that craving will kick in. And once it does, it means your body recognizes the nutrients and wants more of what’s good for you.
Making kale salad is a lot like making any other salad … you can be creative and go with your gut about what will taste and look good. It can be super simple on a busy day or more elaborate when you have time to experiment.
Take the kale leaves off the stems and cut the leaves into bite sized pieces. If you’re using flat leaf (lacinato) kale, you can give it a nice look by cutting it into strips about 1/2 an inch wide.
That is all you need to do with the kale.
Or …
If you like, you can massage the kale for a wilted, softer salad.
Massage it by mixing the kale with lemon juice (1/2 -1 lemon for 1 bunch of kale) and a little sea salt (up to 1/2 tsp to taste). Now massage the kale with your fingers for 2 or 3 minutes until it starts to soften and all surfaces of the kale are coated.
1. Mix crumbled goat cheese into the kale
2. Mix in dried cranberries and pine nuts
3. Mix in thinly sliced red onion and very thin granny smith apple slices
4. Add edamame, sliced black olives and sun-dried tomatoes
Add a drizzle of olive oil or your favorite dressing to any of the above and enjoy!
Go green!
Are you looking for ways to feel less pain and stress in your life and more peace and joy? You’re not alone.
Yoga is one of my go-to ways to create space for stress to slip away and the mind to become peaceful. It starts with asana, such a great way to start slowing down the mind as we focus on movement and breath. Then there’s meditation, yama and niyama and one of my greatest joys, chanting kirtan.
Let’s talk about meditation for a second. Through meditation we can train our easily distracted puppy-minds to be still and quiet, and experience more peace and less stress from the ups and downs of life. Through stillness your mind becomes calm, you experience the stress of life without feeling stressed, and you support your body’s natural ability to heal itself. Here is one of my favorites.
Picture a flame in your heart.
See the flame filling your heart with the glow of light, love and compassion.
Feel the glow spread outward from your heart, filling your whole body
Now gradually fill the room… the building, your neighborhood, your city, your country, the world, the universe!
When everything is filled with the glow of light, love and compassion, rest in that place for as long as you like.
Try doing this for five to ten minutes every day. How do you feel? What kind of difference does it make in your life?
We know it’s important to love yourself.
You’ll be happier and healthier and you’ll have better relationships. In fact you’ll have more success with everything you do and every day will be more fun :~) But knowing is one thing, doing is another. If you struggle with the idea of looking at yourself in the mirror and saying: “I love you,” you’re not alone.
Jumping from where you are now to full-on loving yourself can be a challenge. When you look in the mirror and say, “I love you,” all the things you don’t love about yourself come flooding up and it’s hard to believe yourself.
But believing is an important part of change. Believing that you can change. And in this case believing that you can love yourself. So if saying, “I love you,” feels unbelievable then start with something smaller, start with a baby step.
It’s a short hop, skip and jump from accepting yourself to loving yourself, so we begin with acceptance.
In fact, we start with accepting one thing at a time.
Take one thing you find unlovable about yourself and accept it. Here are a few examples of what that might be like:
You look in the mirror and see someone who’s too tall…
You’ve never liked that about yourself. You wonder how you can love yourself when you’re too tall.
(Too tall for what? And anyway, who says how tall is too tall?)
When you accept your height you accept that you can’t change it and you decide to stop tying up emotional energy by disliking what you can’t change.
You decide to put your energy into something positive.
You experiment with letting yourself be all of who you are and that includes being fabulously tall :~)
You look in the mirror and see your clothes are getting tight…
You think: “How can I love myself when I’ve been eating badly, not exercising and now I don’t even fit into my clothes?”
Ask yourself if you can change the past. The answer is no, right?
Accept that there is nothing you can do to change the past. Not with resignation, but with understanding that you made certain choices and you’re willing to be responsible for them. Starting today, make different choices if you want things to be different.
And then think of something you love about yourself right now, no matter what.
You look in the mirror and see someone with a chronic health issue…
You don’t know how it will ever resolve. You wonder, “How do I love myself with this going on?”
You accept it because it is so. You didn’t choose it, but here it is.
You accept that it gives you an opportunity for growth (I know, we never like hearing that, but it’s always true.)
Accept that the future holds possibilities for healing even if you can’t see them. Choose to be open to healing, even as you live in each moment with whatever is present in that moment.
And now think of something fabulous about you that’s true right now.
When you decide to take responsibility for your healing you commit to sticking with both the inner and outer work. You’re willing to face parts of yourself you don’t want to look at. You stick with it when you feel fear and uncertainty, or in the face of the seemingly impossible. You stick with it when it’s uncomfortable, when you don’t like what you see, when you don’t feel like it, when it’s hard. You stick with it.
When you accept your biggest challenge and commit to learn from it, I promise you your life will change. Your desire to learn will transform that challenge into your greatest opportunity, even your greatest joy!
Mind-body magic is not the same for everyone, because each person has unique needs and circumstances. But some things are universal … here are three steps to help you heal from the inside out:
These three practices clear energetic blocks and also start your unconscious mind percolating with delightful and unexpected insight and awareness to help you on your journey.
Get back back in the driver’s seat of your own life. Don’t think for a minute that it’s selfish. Without this commitment to yourself you can’t care for others in any meaningful way. You first. You first so you have the strength and well-being to be there for others you care about.
Right now. When you take this step, mind-body magic will happen. When you wait for someone else to fix it or blame someone or something for the way things are, you shut the door.
Open the door for a miracle.
‘Tis the season to be happy and joyful.
Yet, as we move deep into the season, I speak to many people who have a love-hate relationship with the holidays, and others find it downright miserable as they grapple with memories of the past that come up for review every year at this time.
If you find yourself feeling this way, awareness and acceptance are great healers. We can’t always change a situation, and we certainly can’t change other people. But we can choose how we spend our time, who we spend it with, and in a challenging moment we can take a deep breath, settle down and make a conscious choice about what to do next.
What are your Christmas / Holiday triggers? Are they huge or have they become more manageable over the years? Whatever their size, when you get triggered you’ll be happier if you accept your difficult feelings as normal, and let them live side-by-side with your happy, loving, joyful feelings. Feelings aren’t logical, and we’re completely capable of having more than one feeling at a time, even when they appear to be in conflict.
My Christmas-Triggers have been whittled smaller over the years, but I still watch for them so they don’t catch me off guard. When I notice I’m triggered into a difficult feeling and I consciously let it be, then I’m at choice about what I do and how I interact with others. If I don’t notice, I’ll probably reach for a cookie, because that’s my default response to stressful feelings.
My auto-pilot thinks cookies are the answer to just about everything. In fact, cookies have been known to call to me from across the room! This is no small thing, and I worked very hard at one time to recover from craving sweets. I feel super healthy when I DON’T eat them and uber-awful when I do. What I’m saying is that when I ignore what I’m feeling and let my unconscious take control, I become out-of-control with cookies. So I’d rather be aware.
What is your default response to challenges at this time of year? Do you numb out with too much food, or the wrong kind of food? Maybe you withdraw from being connected to people. Or you stay engaged but feel frustrated, irritated or angry.
If you want to be happier and feel your joy as well as your frustration, then let go of your expectations of people. Your mother, your sister, your uncle, your friend… what if you were to accept the things they do? The very things that usually make you cringe and react. Yep, you can pretty much count on Uncle Harry dominating the conversation. Your sister probably still wants to know why you aren’t married yet (or something equally none of her business). Your mother will likely treat you like you’re 15 years old. Or whatever it is in your family. Accept it.
I can assure you that holding expectations for people to behave in a certain way is a recipe for unhappiness. Accepting their behavior doesn’t mean you wouldn’t like things to change. Of course you would! But now it’s a preference and your happiness doesn’t depend on anyone changing. It comes from within and you can feel downright amazing and joyful that way!
Let me know how it goes this year, okay? If you feel inspired to share, please leave your thoughts below. Everyone learns from everyone else that way. I promise I’ll share if you do. 🙂
To Acceptance and JOY!
How often do we hear that if we could just love everyone we would be happy, joyful, and yes… healthier. And being in a state of love all the time, well that would be amazing!
Hands up if you love everyone, all the time, no matter who, no matter what!
The truth is that for most of us this is a lofty goal that we’re working toward. To be in a place where we feel Universal Love move through us to the most difficult people, no matter who, no matter what. Most of us just aren’t there yet, or we’re there sometimes but not always.
Isn’t it a great feeling when we get there for even a moment? And then like a pendulum we swing back to “normal” and normal includes a whole range of feelings, both positive and negative.
If love and joy create happiness and health it’s just as true that harboring negative emotions brings unhappiness and ill-health. Anger, resentment, hate, fear… these things can make or keep us sick.
Knowing this, you probably want to feel as “up” as you can. You might even feel guilty and scared about your negative feelings because you’ve been told to “stay positive” so your body will receive the positive messages your cells needs for healing.
Or maybe you’re worried you’re creating bad karma or you’re scared about the Universal Law that says we bring into our life what we are most focused on. In other words, when we put out anger we’re going to get anger back, or when we put out fear, we’re going to attract into our life the very thing we’re afraid of.
Well … for most of us it’s just not possible to “stay positive” all the time, but here is the good news. You don’t have to wait to be fully expanded and in a constant state of gratitude to take the stress off your health and even your happiness!
The key is awareness. When you are aware of a negative feeling at the time you’re having it, that awareness removes the karmic effect… it changes the energy you’re sending into the universe, and it changes the messages your body is receiving.
The mind-body talk goes something like this: ”Look, I’m really, really angry (resentful/scared) right now and I don’t know how I’m going to get through it but I am going to do something, so you don’t need to take this on. I’m handling it.”
This is the message your body gets when you are aware and take responsibility for your feelings, whether you actually “say” those words consciously or not. And you can send a conscious message to your cells if you want to make your message feel more intentional … but you don’t have to.
I was once the Queen of anger and fear and I didn’t even know it, in fact I didn’t know how to recognize most of my feelings. But when I was a young mother healing my back, I gradually learned how to recognize my feelings and especially how to work through the difficult ones.
I know this road very well and it’s powerful medicine. I went from not even knowing what I was feeling, even though I was angry or scared a lot of the time, to being able to recognize my feelings as I was having them. And no matter where you are on the continuum of feeling-awareness, you can too.
Homework: Allow yourself to open to greater awareness of feelings. Know that negative thoughts and feelings will come and go and that it’s natural. Know that your moment of awareness IS the healing moment, the moment of magic, the moment that changes everything and makes growth possible.
And as for loving everyone? You don’t have to. Just don’t hate anyone, and if there’s someone you “don’t prefer” … accept them anyhow. Accept that as a human being they have a right to their life and a right to not be judged by you. Then whenever that person comes into your mind, think about your acceptance and then think about something else.
It was 30 years ago, and I had a back injury that stopped me having much of a life. I couldn’t work or do everyday things like drive, carry my baby or even do my own dishes!
I spent much of my pregnancy on bedrest, and a few months after my baby was born I had major surgery to correct the problem. It was exciting to think I would be up and around again! But that didn’t happen, and doctors couldn’t explain why I didn’t recover.
Eventually I realized it was up to me to find my own healing if I ever wanted to have a normal life again.
In my search for answers I met a healer, and was inspired by her story of personal healing after the Mayo Clinic told her there was no hope. From her I learned that there are many dimensions to getting well, and I knew if she could do it then I could too.
And I did. With her help, along with my fast-growing library of self-healing books and the support of a doctor who finally believed me, I gradually got my life back and it was such a gift!
What goes around comes around, and I was quickly given an opportunity to pay it forward.
Soon after I recovered, my close neighbor was diagnosed with a benign, grapefruit-sized tumor in her belly. Denise’s doctor wanted to do surgery right away, but she asked him for one month and came to see me. She wanted to know what I had done to heal myself because she hoped to avoid surgery.
We had tea, chatted about it and I gave her a simple program that day. She didn’t mention it again so about six weeks later I was pretty curious, as the doctor’s one month deadline had come and gone. I asked her how it was going, and in her matter-of-fact way she said, “The growth is gone, completely gone.”
A truly inspiring story!
30 years later I am still awed and fascinated by the power of mind-body healing.
I love this picture because it gives me a warm, happy feeling about my immune cells. When I look at this picture I can easily imagine they’re on my side. They’re part of my team, they’re willing, they’re open and they’re ready to help.
I used to see my cells in black and white. Sort of disembodied parts of myself that I hoped would do the job. I would talk to them but I wasn’t sure if they were listening. I was afraid of what they would or wouldn’t do next. It’s like they weren’t a part of me at all!
And I was petrified when I realized our immune cells are responding to every single thought we have, becoming sluggish with negative thoughts and more active with positive thoughts.
So it was an important moment for me when I realized my immune system is friendly. It wants to help. We’re on the same team and my cells don’t hold me responsible for every accidental negative thought I have.
In fact, the more I become aware of my own negativity the less my body responds to it. Being aware of our negative thoughts brings them into the open air, into the light of day, and when we look at them with awareness they lose their power.
So give yourself a big, helping, healing hand by paying attention to your thoughts. Notice your positive thoughts and appreciate them. Observe your negative thoughts and don’t worry about them.
And get reconnected with your body.
I say RE-connected, since you and your body are never really separate, and what you want is to get back in touch with the connection that’s always there. Here are three steps to help get you and your body reconnected so you’re on the same team.
As in any important relationship, listen carefully, remember the impact of the conversation and take action on what you learn.
The more you accept your body as a friend and team-mate, and the more you move into full relationship with your body, the more you’ll find it’s a very supportive friend, indeed.
I LOVE Legs Up the Wall (Viparita Karani Mudra).
It’s my absolute favorite restorative yoga pose and often my favorite part of the day, especially after a lot of desk-sitting or a long drive or flight. As a restorative pose it’s simple to hold and it has most of the headstand’s benefits without the effort and skill of a headstand.
I often do a simple version with no bolsters. Penny demonstrates the simple version at the beginning of this video and she’ll also tell you some more of the amazing benefits. Enjoy!
The Solstice has come and gone and I hope you are enjoying beautiful end-of-September weather.
My summer was fruitful, and fall brings a new look with a new name (look up top!) and a new commitment to serving you in a higher way than before.
No matter where you are on the curve of wellness and life growth, no matter what your story, it always comes down to this question ~
But here’s the thing. When you don’t have good health to sustain your involvement in life, it can be nearly, if not completely, impossible to move forward. I’ve been there and I get it, and I will be offering more targeted support for facing difficult health challenges ~ you’ll find it in newsletter and blog articles, in teleseminars and in Thrive training sessions.
One night I woke up from a sound sleep with the word thrive in my mind. I thought, “Mmmm … I like that word,” and turned over to go back to sleep. But a voice inside said “This is important!”
Well, I got up … because I’ve learned to trust that voice … and I wrote down thrive so I wouldn’t forget it and then I went back to sleep. The next day I spent some time playing with it and after awhile this is what I was looking at:
T Take charge of your life and your healing
H Have a conversation with your body and really listen
R Relax and transform your stress into renewable, healing energy
I Imagine perfect health is possible for you
V Visualize your wellness and inspire your body to heal itself
E Expect the healing you want and know you deserve it
A beautiful illustration of what I’m so passionate about sharing with people! And I can’t wait to share more with you soon.
Are you ready to get clear and start moving forward in a bigger way? To celebrate Thrive! I am offering you the chance for a four-week private coaching program with me.
But I’m getting ahead of myself.
For the next two weeks I am offering free Strategy Sessions. A strategy session leaves you feeling supported, confident and more sure of your next steps, and to apply for one, all you have to do is email me and answer one question:
Q. What is your biggest health or life challenge right now?
I plan to serve as many people with this offer as my schedule allows, so if you feel inspired and want that call, send me an email.
Everyone who applies for a strategy session will also be entered to win the four-week coaching program, an awesome opportunity to take what you learn in the strategy session and move forward with it even further, so if you want private coaching and it’s been feeling out of reach, this may be your chance.
If this is not for you, but you know someone who might benefit from the offer please send them this link so I can reach as many people as possible with this opportunity.
THRIVE!
T Take charge of your life and your healing
H Have a conversation with your body and really listen
R Relax and transform your stress into renewable, healing energy
I Imagine perfect health is possible for you
V Visualize your wellness and inspire your body to heal itself
E Expect the healing you want and know you deserve it
Taming tension at your desk is an ongoing challenge if you spend much time there. Sometimes simple is the way to go, and this stretch can revitalize you on the spot. As you move through the steps, allow your movement to be fluid and easy from one step to the next.
Now add your breath like this …
Breathe in as you raise your arms and reach up. Breathe out as you lower your arms back to your sides and return your hands to your lap. Pace your movement so your breathing is comfortable, with no strain. Keep your movement smooth and easy.
How do you feel after doing this 2 or 3 times?
Even with simple movements like these, always maintain awareness and do what you know you can do safely.
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First, just because someone is sitting quietly with their eyes closed in meditation doesn’t mean they’re better at it than you are, even if you’ve never tried it before. Really.
There are a few more things you might like to know. You don’t have to sit on the floor to meditate. Meditation does not mean making your mind a blank, and you can never fail at meditation. It’s a practice and you start where you are. No tests. No pass, no fail.
I started meditating years ago because I was drawn to yoga, and meditation is part of yoga. At retreats I learned a method and I was hooked. I was also pretty sure that everyone else was doing it better than I was. My mind was distracted, my thoughts wandered and I would end the meditation feeling strangely guilty and glad no one could see inside my mind.
Over the years I grew to like meditation more and more. I grew to see my tangled, unruly mind as a puppy-mind. After all, we don’t expect puppies to train themselves, and we think they’re adorable. Why not pay the same loving attention to my mind? We train puppies step by step, and so it is with the mind. I found that paying attention to my puppy-mind, watching its antics, and gently redirecting it again and again to the focus of my meditation was very calming, very relaxing, very grounding. I’m still practicing.
I will say that over time my mind has learned to settle down and my wildest thought-ramblings are somewhat tamed. But the most important thing I’ve learned is that it’s called practice for a reason. We are practicing the art of concentration, just the way you might practice the piano or painting or throwing a baseball. Meditation is a learning process.
Here are a few methods of meditation for you to enjoy. Sitting in a posture with an upright spine is very helpful, and a straightback chair is perfectly fine.
Don’t worry when a thought interrupts your concentration. Simply return your attention to the focus of your meditation. And if you get lost in your thoughts for awhile before you’re even aware of having them, this is normal. What you’re practicing is: (1) Noticing and (2) Returning your attention to the meditation. We practice this over and over and over again. That’s meditation.
Did you know? Meditation causes pain reduction roughly equivalent to the benefits of morphine. From an article called, Thinking Away the Pain: Meditation as cheap, self-administered morphine:
Consider a study by scientists at Wake Forest University. After only a few days of meditation training—teaching people to better focus their attention, concentrating less on the discomfort and more on a soothing stimulus—subjects reported a 57% reduction in the “unpleasantness” of their pain. Such improvements are roughly equivalent to the benefits of morphine.
How often do you read that letting go is the answer? Or someone tells you “Just let go of that, you’ll feel so much better!” Or happier, or lighter, or more relaxed … more of whatever you’re not feeling now.
We KNOW letting go is the way to move forward. And we would if we could. But sometimes we get stuck holding on.
Maybe it’s something material or maybe it’s an emotion, a reaction you want to move through your body and up on out. What can you do right now?
How about instead of trying to let it go you just let it be? Let it live in you with awareness. And to heighten your awareness try giving it form … draw it, dance it, sing it, write it.
And then turn your attention elsewhere. Instead of struggling to let go so you can feel lighter and happier, do something that helps you get to that joyful, playful, light-hearted place NOW.
Do the things that make you feel lighter NOW and enjoy those feelings now. You might even find that whatever you want to let go of starts to get lighter and lighter until it lifts off by itself!
How to do this?
My personal favorite for fun, insight and getting out of your worry-mind is to make art with no rules the way you did when you were a kid. If you want help getting started sign up for my free Virtual Mini Retreat (on the right side of this page). It has a great activity that will get you playing with crayons : )
What else can you do?
Get your body moving. Play baseball or volleyball, go for a swim, dance! or go for a walk. Walking is amazing in its ability to move us forward. Tangled thoughts get sorted out and wild emotions settle down so we can think straight again.
Play with a child, giggle and be silly. It’s a great way to get into your heart and into the moment and stop fretting.
Spend time with a pet and really get into your non-verbal communication. It’s another great way to get out of your head and into the moment.
I’m sure you can think of more. Whatever makes you feel good and helps you forget your SERIOUS self for awhile is what you’re looking for.
It’s about having fun BEFORE things work out, before we let go, before we have everything arranged just right, and doing it NOW because now is the only moment we have, after all.
In my yoga community we talk about “switching the angle of the mind” when we want to look at something in a new and more positive way. This often takes daily effort, but the other day it was sudden and unexpected and fun!
I read a new-to-me quote from the 17th Century Matthew Henry:
“Thanksgiving is good,
but Thanks-living is better.”
Wow! I felt my mind crack open in a new place … it was subtle and profound at the same time. Thanks-living. I wondered what it meant, then asked myself what it would mean to LIVE my thanks. I was definitely having a Wow! moment and it felt amazing.
I was in that place Buddhists call “no-mind”, where we wait for answers to questions our minds would answer in a flash if they had control at that moment. But instead of giving it over to our busy-mind, we sit in wonder and allow the no-mind answer to emerge. It’s almost always simpler and often a wonderful surprise. The no-mind answer comes from intuition, God, Light, Source, Universe, Creator… and is pure grace.
You probably experience this when you practice guided imagery, when you meditate, when you open yourself to someone else’s healing hands and energy. You put yourself in an open state, ready to receive knowledge or healing. The answers you get, the results you experience are gifts from the Universe.
So there I was, with my mind not in charge and cracked open in the most delightful way. My usual thoughts about living with an attitude of gratitude floated past my inner eye… how it lifts us out of our selfish concerns, helps us believe in a positive future, how our immune system perks up, and how we feel generally better and happier and more loving toward others.
And on that day, wondering what it would mean to LIVE my thanks, I was taken with a new idea. What if whenever I feel thankful, whenever I feel gratitude, I turn around and GIVE to someone else. Automatically, every time, right then.
That was my Wow! And as it sank in I realized what a beautiful practice this would be.
Live Your Thankfulness
Your gift doesn’t have to represent anything and it doesn’t have to be huge. It might be a compliment or an expression of appreciation or that special smile you have. You’ll know. Do this every time you experience gratitude. Seriously.
There you have it. There’s my Wow! turned into a daily practice, my attitudinal twist on “paying it forward”. For health, for peace, for pure joy. In the beginning it will be deliberate. One day, after continued practice, the cycle of gratitude and gifting will be such a well-worn path it will be perfectly continuous and without thought. Enjoy!
My favorite doctor told me love and prayer heal. Is it any wonder he was my favorite? ♥
The healing impulse is a mystery, and we don’t always know how it works.
What we can do to help is get clear about the result we want, believe in it with our whole being, and then allow love and prayer to be part of our everyday living.
The Universe will handle the rest, with pleasure.
Love Loves Love,
I love collage because it’s fun and easy even when you don’t have experience with art. It’s like being in kindergarten again, when cutting and pasting was the most natural thing in the world.
This collage is about taking time to feel and express who you are in this transitional period of autumn. An opportunity for reflection and self-expression, it’s a healthy feel-good activity. Allow your challenges to be expressed in your collage as well as your gifts, as it can ease your stress and help to bring clarity.
In the fall we turn from the expansiveness of summer toward the introspection and coziness of winter. You may feel excitement of new beginnings as the school year begins, sadness of leaving summer behind, pure enjoyment of the colors and warm-coolness of fall. Whatever is going on in your personal life will generate emotions as well.
In your Fall Colors Collage you can create a visual expression of the energy and meaning of where you are in your life right now. Putting feelings into form feels good, and gives them a pathway into the outer world that releases immune stress.
(If you’re interested in future projects, you might like to assemble some other basic supplies.)
Begin by collecting things of nature that appeal to you, things like leaves, a pine cone, branch, a handful of sand, anything you like. Being in nature may be as easy as walking out your door, or it might mean an excursion to a park or a beach. Collect things that speak to you, even if you don’t know why. Collect a lot or a little.
When you get back home, lay everything out so you can see it. Now look through magazines to find pictures and/or words you want to add to your collection. Cut out anything you feel drawn to; you can decide later if you will actually use it.
When you’re ready, begin arranging things on your poster board. Play with them until it starts to look “right” to you and you’re ready to stick things down with glue or tape. As you continue to work with your collage, add anything else that inspires you. Color, paint, or write on the board … anything goes.
Your collage may tell a story or not, it might be all about color, all about shape, or apparently random. Make what looks and feels right to you, there are no rules, no right way, only your way. Doing the exercise with a friend can be a lot of fun, and it will help you relax and let your creative spirit out to play.
When you’re done, put your collage someplace you will see it often and enjoy the results of your creative autumn energy.
Anyone who knows me could tell you I like playing with art supplies. I’m no artist, but I love bright colored pens and crayons, crinkly paper and glue, all the things that kindergarten children know exactly what to do with!
When we play, we let go of the outside world for awhile. Sometimes we forget ourselves completely and just have fun. Other times we tune in with ourselves and find expression for thoughts and feelings that are difficult to express in other ways, things we don’t have words for, even thoughts and feelings we weren’t aware of.
This kind of play supports the spirit. We exercise our basic need for healthy self-expression, and create things that please our aesthetic sense. Tune in with ourselves and find expression for thoughts and feelings that are difficult to express in other ways, things we don’t have words for, even thoughts and feelings we weren’t aware of.
I enjoy art exercises that offer self-reflection and creative self-expression. I’ll be posting them here from time to time, the first one next week. If you would like to join me, below are some basic supplies you can have on hand.
You can find these things at an art or craft store, some items are probably in your local drugstore or supermarket, some you will have around your house. The list is a starting place, add anything that strikes your fancy.
Stop by the office of your local newspaper and ask about “end rolls”. These are the rolls of blank paper that get pulled off at the end of a print run. Most newspapers sell them, and what you’ll receive is a large roll of blank newspaper for just a dollar or two. An inexpensive way to get lots of paper that can be cut to whatever size you need.
When you’ve gathered your box of goodies, spend some time getting to know your supplies. Experiment with color, texture, sparkle, to get the feel of playing in this new way. Remember this is about self-expression, not being an artist, and don’t worry about how it is supposed to look. There is no right way, only your way. Relax and have fun with it.
Albert Einstein said, “To stimulate creativity, one must develop the childlike inclination for play.” If you’re not sure how to get started, then share your box of goodies with a child and follow along. Children have no trouble with play!
Walking for transformation
What do you do when you feel stuck with a decision and don’t know how to move through it? Or you feel intense, reactionary emotion and don’t know how to relax so you can find your center, find your clarity again?
One of the things I do is walk. Not just my usual, throw myself out the door, get some exercise walk, but a walk with the specific intent of learning and transforming. You might call it a walking meditation, or walking reflection. It’s one of my favorite therapies.
Walking moves the body and deepens the breath. We become relaxed and open to new thoughts and ways of being; it can help us shift out of habitual ways of thinking and our mind becomes free to find new solutions. If you’ve been turning a problem over and over in your mind with no solution, take your troubles for a walk.
How far you walk and the pace you set is up to your inclination and fitness capabilities. If illness or injury prevents you from walking, then you can imagine your walk, doing the exercise in your mind. This fires the muscles you would use if you were actually walking, and encourages your whole system to maintain it’s belief in the ability to move.
Set your intention
Before you begin your walk, know what you’re asking for. You might, for example, be facing a career choice, be in the middle of a family disagreement, or facing a decision about health care. Be clear about the issue and ready to let it go as a “problem” and receive a solution. Be committed to acting on the answer you receive.
Head out the door
As you head out on your walk, hold an image of the question in your mind, but acknowledge that you don’t know the answer and let go of active problem-solving. The idea is to get your busy mind out of the way so your creative mind can discover new ways of looking at things. Notice how good it feels to let the problem go. Notice your thoughts as they come and go. Allow them to shift and change without holding onto them, without directing them in any way. Enjoy your body movement. Enjoy the release of handing over your question to your intuitive, creative mind.
The answer
At some point you may notice a thought that speaks differently to you than the others. It may be a sudden, strong new thought. Or a seemingly insignificant thought that keeps coming back until you begin to notice it in a new way. If it seems to be asking for your attention, then pay attention. Keep walking, and ask yourself if this might be your answer, or the beginning of an answer to your question.
Sometimes a beginning is what we’re given, sometimes more. Sometimes my answer is a new attitude with which to address the puzzle. Walk until you feel you understand what you’ve received and are sure you’ll remember it.
Take some quiet time after your walk. New awareness can be fragile, slipping out of the mind if we get busy too fast, so try not to rush into another activity right away. Nurture your new awareness, and think about how you might act on what you’ve learned.
A direct connection exists between a person’s mental attitude and their ability to heal. Some say that mental attitude affects a person’s ability to do almost anything.
My introduction to this kind of thought came as a girl in the 1960s when my father gave me a book called Psycho-Cybernetics. Dr. Maxwell Maltz maintained that with regular practice a person could improve self image in such a way that s/he would develop a more successful and fulfilling life. It all hinges, he said, on the creative imagination.
Picture it
Use your imagination to create an image that represents your goal, he said. The more you focus on it, the more your mind will accept it, and the more your automatic systems will fall into place to support it. Since the subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between real and imagined, the pictures we make in our minds create our future, he said. This made sense to me.
For instance, picture yourself in a successful job interview and imagine everything about it. Practice this for several days or more, and you will almost certainly feel an increase in confidence and positive expectation for the actual interview. This increases your chance of success. On the other hand, if you nurture your fears about the interview by imagining all the things that could go wrong, then things are more likely to go wrong.
Mind-Body Pioneers
The power of imagination in healing has been acknowledged for centuries in Traditional Chinese Medicine, the Indian science of Ayurveda, and other traditional cultures. Not so in western medical science. But during the alternative years of the ’60s and ’70s it’s no surprise that some western doctors began using mind-body healing with their patients. They observed remarkable results.
Dr. Bernie Siegel is a pioneer of mind-body healing in the west. He believes that healing power originates in the human mind and will. He believes that love heals. He believes in miracles.
In 1978, Bernie (as he prefers to be known) originated a form of holistic support called Exceptional Cancer Patients (ECaP) in which patients worked with drawings, dreams, images and feelings as a part of their healing process. The mainstream medical community was more than skeptical. Yet his 1986 book Love, Medicine, and Miracles inspired an eager audience and continues to inspire new generations, as do his subsequent books.
Science Catches Up
Science has gone to work catching up. The new field of Psychoneuroimmunology (PNI) has made healthy waves in mainstream medicine by putting mind-body healing to the test. In studying the interaction of mind and spirit with immune function, it has found that depressed or hopeless states of mind depress the immune system. Positive emotions and a sense of hope and encouragement activate the immune system. Science can now tell us that mind and body are not separate but are one system, linked and coordinated by actual molecules of emotion.
What To Do With It
There are many ways to work with this knowledge. Creative self-expression enlivens the spirit and creates positive feelings. Meditation and relaxation techniques are calming and feed the spirit. Examining emotions and coming to terms with difficult feelings releases tension and we feel happier. Following our passion creates positive emotions beyond measure. Mental imagery creates hope and faith in the healing ability of the body, and provides a healthy image for our cells.
In the end it seems that healing imagery is not so different from my early lessons of the 1960s; you just shift the angle of your mind from outside to inside results. At first this seemed like magic to me. Now, thanks to PNI, it’s mind-body magic with the support of western medicine.